Sweet Serendipity!

Good morning! Happy Monday! Welcome to July! 

I had a nice Sunday. I had quite a bit of hectic drama there for a few weeks (not by my choice) so I was taking some time to breathe the past week. Decompress. Relax. It's not completely done but it is what it is. I rented a movie and grabbed dinner on Saturday after work. And yesterday was gym, errands, cleaning and then vegging until my boys got home. I think veg was the theme and it was awesome! :)

I watched The Impossible on Sat. That's the movie about the family who was caught up in the 2004 tsunami in Asia. It's a true story and I don't think anyone (especially parents) can watch it without imagining what you would do if such a tragedy occurred. I was watching interviews with the mother, Maria Belon on Youtube after watching the movie and the thing she kept going back to is that we are so much stronger than we think we are. The human spirit can cope and come back from truly horrific and brutal tragedies. And we find out in those moments just how strong we truly are. It certainly does put things into perspective, doesn't it? 

Trying to think of a fun adventure for my boys this Thursday (July 4th). I have a few ideas but it all depends on the weather! It has not been very pleasant. Hot and humid and kind of overcast now. I don't mind the heat but I wish it would just be sunny and pretty too!!

I have been taking the Rainbow Light women's vitamin for awhile now and my nails seem to be stronger and my hair grows faster. That particular vitamin does contain Biotin which helps those things. I had forgotten about that addition until I noticed my nails were sticking around longer and not so thin. It could as a result of my healthy living in general but my hair growing faster is cool too. Check it out! 

Ok, getting real for a moment. So I am a single mother. And I do go on dates sometimes. I have delved into the online dating. I am extremely careful as I do have two little boys and won't just bring anyone around my kids. I may be overly cautious but I feel as though I have to be. I was dating someone for about 8 months in 2012 and the boys got pretty attached so I've not just jumped right back into it all. The problem I face is meeting someone with enough patience and understanding of my feelings regarding the boys. Meeting and spending a bit of time is one thing. But introducing as a "boyfriend"and having around often just takes time. And I just haven't met very many patient men when it comes to this. I'm not sure if it's the area I live in or just a common issue in general. And as single parents, we are all balancing the same hectic life. Time with our kids, work, time to ourselves. And if people are patient and just relax and not think so much, it can be so much better. It might be a matter of quality time vs quantity. But that's better than nothing right? And things end up being made so much harder and more difficult by those that want what they want, when they want it. Patience! :) 

Online dating has it's pros and cons for sure. The biggest pro is being able to meet people that you might never have met otherwise. Being limited to meeting someone because they live in your neighborhood or happen to be out when you are is tough. Though that's how people met in the "old days" so why doesn't it work now? Also, not having to be out an about all the time as a parent and still being able to converse and get to know someone is nice. The cons are that so many seem to be trying to create this perfect Stepford person/robot. And they tend to take people for granted a lot. You go online and there are MANY MANY people on there. It's pretty overwhelming. And people are more confident behind their computer than they are in person. So it ends up being the luck of the draw it seems. Some contact so many and can't keep it straight and can't find the time to truly see what happens with all these people they are talking to at the same time. 

I think I need to point something out. Just because all these people are online and at your fingertips, does not mean they are a compatible choice for a mate. It's no different than going to a mall or grocery store. Sure, you will see many many people and maybe even find several of them attractive. But what are the odds that all of them are going to be right for you and your world? Pretty slim right? And I think technology has made people forget that and get stuck in that frame of mind that "If it doesn't work with this one...I can jump back in". I think if everyone became a little "old school" and worked to make it work with someone who you "click" with and the foundation seems good....then people would find more lasting relationships. This is just my observation of course. But old school is a good way to be at times. No that doesn't mean staying with someone that makes you miserable. It means if someone turns you on and makes you laugh and the core things seem great...then if a few things annoy you or don't fit this perfect mold of what you think you want....then chill and realize that perfect isn't all it's cracked up to be and really doesn't exist! lol!! Anndd jumping back in does not mean magically filling that void. 

I also think being comfortable with yourself and the ability to be alone is healthy. If you have to jump from person to person all the time then that really isn't good for you. It kind of shows you don't have the ability to cope with things on your own. But to each their own of course! I've never been that way but perhaps it does work for some. I do feel content on my own with my boys though...yet I am open to the right relationship when the time is right and when they will fit into my world with my boys. We are the Three Musketeers! But we are all loving, happy and gracious people and the right guy (and perhaps his own kid(s) will only enhance that. 

I am an Oregonian at heart. Living in Connecticut. Sometimes I feel as though I don't mesh with people here very well. A lot (not all) men here are very "me me me" minded and self-involved. And pretty greedy. I can't tell you how many 40+ year old men I've met here that are looking to just start a family. I have heard the phrase "I want a big brood of kids". And they are 42 already!  I come with a ready made family and these boys are more important to me than anything else and don't want anyone unless they are completely accepting and happy with this package deal. 

I guess time will tell. In the meantime I will focus on my boys, work, friends, etc. Yes online dating is convenient but it doesn't mean I'm likely to find someone anymore compatible than I would if I went to Barnes and Noble or the grocery store! haha! I kind of miss the old school, olden days. Meeting someone by serendipitous methods. You know immediately if there is chemistry or not. Ahhh sweet serendipity! :) 

Have a great day! I am getting a great workout in and then taking my boys to play with friends later. Good stuff! I love Summer! :) 

"Yes, there are two paths you can go by, but in the long run there's still time to change the road you're on" - Led Zeppelin. 

xoxoxox
Tam