How are you? I hope you've had a good week. I have been MIA! I had a busy but good weekend with my boys and then the week just got hectic before I knew it. I woke up on Tuesday with a swollen and itchy eye which has not felt great for the past couple of days. No idea where that came from but it was not a good look, haha. And yesterday morning my youngest woke up with a fever and lethargic. :( My poor little guy. His fever continued last night. It got up to 103.2. I was a concerned but monitored him and put cool cloths on his head. His fever slowly started to drop and he is much better this morning. Phew! Not sure what caused it. I just can't stand it when my babies are sick. I feel so helpless!
On Sunday I took them to Fort Trumbull here in Connecticut (New London). It's a national park and an old Revolutionary War fort. Had some cool things to look at and canons! (my youngest kept saying canyon! hehe). But I grew up going to places like this and think it's important for kids to see them and have an understanding of things. My dad and uncles would take my brother and I to the Fort Lewis military museum in Washington state. We'd climb on tanks and planes, etc. Fun stuff for a kid! Even a girl. ;)
I was talking with a lady yesterday. she does some work with meditation using cd's. She was saying that it has to do with how listening to the cd actually changes the brain waves and can help someone achieve whatever it is they're looking to achieve. Whether it be a new job, school, relationships, weight-loss, recovering from addiction, etc. I can see how something like this could be effective as I often talk about mind over matter. I was able in succeeding in creating a healthier lifestyle from sheer will, hard work and educating myself. However, none of that could have happened if my mind wasn't ready to believe it was possible.
I think many of us are victims of the "get rich quick" or "lose weight quick" schemes because we want success at the hands of other people's thoughts and ideas. And that is why many of them fail. When you don't get there through your own will and thoughts, then you aren't going to believe in yourself. Just look at famous quotes by famous thinkers. A lot of them talk about how our thoughts control our lives. To think it can be that simple. But belief in oneself gives you the confidence and determination to achieve the goals you have set. If you aren't confident then nobody is going to be convinced, especially yourself.
Something else that can be tied into this is while you are working on thinking you can get things done, maybe try not to judge or complain about others so much. This is a goal I have set for myself. The fact is we aren't going to get along with everyone and we aren't going to think the same way as everyone. But really, what kind of boring world would that be anyway?? The differences of the human spirit does make things a lot more interesting. And while there is a lot of ugly out there and people that upset us and make things difficult, there are also a lot of decent people that are far more like-minded than we realize. Hard-working, caring, rational, fair, honest and who have their priorities straight. And more than likely, these people have struggles of their own in some way. So why judge?
I find myself getting very irritable with people I feel are acting "spoiled" or entitled. There are many that act as though they are too good for things and that their needs are the only thing that matter. That kind of attitude is annoying. But really it is something within them and at the end of the day I need to just relax and let it go. I work very hard to take care of my boys and myself. When I'm not working I'm trying to keep my home up, keep healthy food on hand and enjoy fun activities with them. I am the constant hand holder, responsible and strong. And I'm pretty nice and happy go lucky usually despite this stuff. And sometimes being strong and happy go lucky is hard and I get tired of being that person and that's when my irritation for people being petty about things bubbles over. I guess it's all about perspective. And being a "survivor" of sorts...has admittedly made me a little less tolerant to certain types of "entitled attitudes". That is something I need to work on. These people are not my cup of tea, no...but so be it. Why let it make me be less of the person my mother raised me to be? :) And I'm sure they are struggling with their own issues and problems.
No, this doesn't mean being a pushover and allowing people to just take advantage all the time. But by allowing their attitude and behavior to affect me in any way, I am not controlling my thoughts. I can choose to just laugh it off and deal. There is a time and place and a way to discuss certain things. It still might not end up well but if you at least control things on your end and approach it in a calm, rational way..then you can rest your head knowing you did your part to keep it calm and fair. We can be patient...and work on tolerant. And sometimes..all that is left is acceptance. Accept it and let it roll off and move forward.
This is another goodie!! :)
So if you're trying to achieve weight-loss or just trying to live a healthier life or make any positive changes in your life.....work on believing you can do it first. You HAVE to know that. You have to understand you are capable of it. Then you will be able to do it forever no matter what comes your way. And try not to let the petty crap of life get you down along the way. It really doesn't matter. Focus on the things that do matter.
Have a great day!!
And just because I love him! O Solo Mio! :)
xoxoxoxo
Tam
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